{"id":495,"date":"2023-01-10T03:49:27","date_gmt":"2023-01-10T02:49:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/societegenerale.promovetm.com\/?p=495"},"modified":"2024-01-06T16:08:02","modified_gmt":"2024-01-06T15:08:02","slug":"the-20-ticks","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/societegenerale.promovetm.com\/en\/the-20-ticks\/","title":{"rendered":"The 20 Ticks"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1050\" height=\"422\" src=\"https:\/\/societegenerale.promovetm.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/The-20-ticks.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-496\" srcset=\"https:\/\/societegenerale.promovetm.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/The-20-ticks.png 1050w, https:\/\/societegenerale.promovetm.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/The-20-ticks-768x309.png 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1050px) 100vw, 1050px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>The only thing we can really change is ourselves. One simple way to change things quickly and effectively is to stop doing the things that prevent us from realising our own potential.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Over the years, we have repeatedly observed which ticks destroy the most potential. What do you think the following ticks do in practice?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">1 \u2013&nbsp;Winning too much<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>The need to win at all costs and in all situations \u2013 when it matters, when it doesn\u2019t and when it\u2019s totally beside the point.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">2 \u2013&nbsp;Adding too much value<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>The overwhelming desire to add our two cents to every discussion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">3 \u2013&nbsp;Passing judgement<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>The need to rate others and impose our standards on them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">4 \u2013&nbsp;Making destructive comments<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>The needles sarcasms and cutting remarks that we think make us sound sharp and witty.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">5 \u2013&nbsp;Starting with \u201cNo\u201d, \u201cBut\u201d and \u201cHowever\u201d<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>The overuse of these negative qualifiers which secretly tell everyone: \u201cI am right. You are wrong.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">6 \u2013 Telling the world how smart we are<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>The need to show people we\u2019re smarter than they think we are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">7 \u2013&nbsp;Speaking when angry<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Using emotional volatility as a management tool.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">8 \u2013&nbsp;Negativity or&nbsp;\u201cLet me explain why that won\u2019t work\u201d<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>The need to share our negative thoughts even when we\u2019re not asked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">9 \u2013&nbsp;Withholding information<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>The refusal to share information in order to maintain an advantage over others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">10 \u2013&nbsp;Failing to give proper recognition<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>The inability to praise and reward.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">11 \u2013&nbsp;Claiming credit that we don\u2019t deserve<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>The most annoying way to overestimate our contribution to any success.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">12 \u2013&nbsp;Making excuses<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>The need to reposition our annoying behavior as a permanent fixture to people excuse us for it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">13 \u2013&nbsp;Clinging to the past<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>The need to deflect blame away from ourselves and onto events and people from our past; a subset of blaming anybody else.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">14 \u2013&nbsp;Playing favorites<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Failing to see that we are treating someone unfairly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">15 \u2013&nbsp;Refusing to express regret<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>The inability to take responsibility for our actions, admit we\u2019re wrong, or recognize how our actions affect others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">16 \u2013&nbsp;Not listening&nbsp;and interrupting<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>The most passive-aggressive form of disrespect for colleagues.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">17 \u2013&nbsp;Failing to express gratitude<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>The most basic form of bad manners.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">18 \u2013&nbsp;Punishing the messenger<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>The misguided need to attack the innocent who are usually only trying to help us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">19 \u2013&nbsp;Passing the buck<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>The need to blame everyone but ourselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">20 \u2013&nbsp;An excessive need to be me<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Exalting our faults as virtues simply because they\u2019re who we are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Implementation in practice<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Choose the 2-3 ticks that bother you the most. Write one card for each tick and place them next to you at meetings so that you can see them. Whenever you realise that you are using a tick, draw a line on another piece of paper. The aim should be to stop drawing lines in meetings.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What could you do to stop using the tick? Just stop doing it! If you don&#8217;t succeed, you can try the following ideas:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Think of a synonym for each tick, e.g. a &#8220;scale&#8221; for evaluating. Pick out a picture of a and place it on the table instead of the tick. Our brain often processes images more easily than words. This could make the tic disappear more easily.&nbsp;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Utilise the power of the team. Involve trusted people in your project. Let them observe you when you use the tic again and give you a sign so that you are aware of it. The <a href=\"\/en\/feedforward\">feedforward<\/a> method is also useful in this context.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The only thing we can really change is ourselves. One simple way to change things quickly and effectively is to stop doing the things that prevent us from realising our own potential.&nbsp; Over the years, we have repeatedly observed which ticks destroy the most potential. What do you think the following ticks do in practice? 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